Face Down Your Fear of Change

June 9th, 2010

The Face of Change

This is a topic many of us are dealing with today. Whether your organization is going through change or you have to change jobs, scary feelings of uncertainty are often triggered. People in the midst of change frequently take a wait-and-see approach that stops progress. There’s no doubt fear and uncertainty are linked with change but you CAN control how you “react” to change. View this time as an opportunity, an opening into a future you can help design. This period is a chance to redefine what you want to be. Focus on the outcome you would like.

If changing your career has become a necessity it’s time for soul searching. This may be the push you need to pursue your passion. Think bigger than your immediate box to stretch yourself beyond your current circumstances. When you do that, you’re 99 percent guaranteed to run up against fear at some point. It just comes with the territory.

Most people will do about anything possible to keep from feeling that fear. It’s one of the biggest obstacles keeping people from taking serious steps towards their dreams. And that’s unfortunate because, that fear can actually be an enormously valuable asset. Fear can be seen as a catalyst to help venture out from a cozy comfort zone.

Fear comes in two varieties: limiting fear and productive fear. Limiting fear stops you dead in your tracks. Productive fear shines a light on potential dangers so you can assess how to minimize or eliminate them. And sometimes the only difference between the two has to do with what you do when you feel that fear.

The fear might be there for a very good reason. For example, let’s say you want to make a career change, but you’re afraid you will not succeed and run out of money. That fear could either be a limiting fear, keeping you from taking any action, or a productive fear, helping you understand more about how to move toward your goal.

Ask yourself two questions to help harness the positive potential of your fear:

What warning does this fear have for me and are they valid? “If I do this, then X could happen.” Be aware whether or not the warnings are valid. For example, the warnings might be, “If you pursue this path and you fail, you’ll suffer a massive setback to your career.” The warning about the massive career setback might actually be greatly exaggerated. I always think like this: If someone took a couple years off to travel around the world, how adversely would that affect their career? Typically not much, especially in the big picture.

What could I do to eliminate or minimize each of the risk factors? For example, rather than flipping the switch and making a change immediately, you might delay for a year and focus on building your network and skills. Take whatever small steps you can towards the new direction while you are still earning money. Also, set aside more money than you might need to start and be realistic about how much time it will actually take.

The more you can examine the fears and put valid fears to use, the more they can be used as a force to move you towards your vision. Don’t let fear and uncertainty break your spirit. You have more power than you know – use it.

- Curt Rosengren
- Sunny Lurie, PhD, article contributor,
Fast Focus Careers

       

Social Skills Improve Interviews

May 20th, 2010

If you’re wondering what you can to do improve interviews, think about how you handle your social skills and body language. Are you likable — that’s extremely important.  A firm handshake of course, but are you aware if your body language is confident?

Body language reveals so much about you –it’s actually 55% of your communication. It has an impact that is more important than your words. And they will notice “the way” you say things. So if you are not smiling or your eyes do not look enthusiastic and happy, it won’t matter what you say. Show passion in the tone of your voice and with excitement when describing your accomplishments.  Nervous habits such as pen clicking or constant foot tapping will also reduce your ability to appear confident.

Do not underestimate the impact of good social skills on your career. Seriously. In fact, across the board, in all types of fields and companies, people would rather work with someone who is likeable and incompetent than with someone who is skilled and obnoxious.

To be likeable you must come across as sincere and authentic by always presenting “the real you.” Also, don’t use jargony words, like, “multi-tasker.”  Be specific. Instead of saying, “I’m a self-starter” and just leave it at that. You could say, “I was given a project without a lot of instruction and in the first 3 days I came up with a list of 10 people to seek advise from. I  met with them all in the first week and received a number of great ideas – I am a self-starter.”

Another suggestion to show confidence is to offer your help on a trial basis. You might say, “I know I have the best skills for the job and I’m so confident I would take on a  project for free.”

Depending on whether we like someone or not influences hiring decisions. So build rapport and make a strong connection through your body language.  People who lack social competence end up looking like they lack other competencies, too.  Don’t forget to keep smiling as you describe who you are.

- Sunny Lurie, PhD., Fast Focus Careers

       

7 Radical Steps to Make a Change

May 6th, 2010

I’m always on the look out for novel and effective career tips. Nick Corcodilos, author of How Do I Change Careers? offers some good ideas to consider. He says, “career changers typically don’t have a network of industry friends, they don’t have a resume stuffed with industry-specific accomplishments, and they often face the dismal prospect of having to jog down a few notches in the corporate hierarchy to make up for lack of experience.”

If those hurdles aren’t enough, they’re often going about the process in all the wrong ways, says Corcodilos. “They’re all victims of brainwashing about what it means to look for a job,” he says. “The current wisdom says to crank up your network, polish your resume and get it out there. It’s all oriented to having you get your documents out there, in the hope that somebody will figure out what to do with you.”

That’s all wrong, Corcodilos says. Instead, job seekers should practice reverse psychology. Enough about you! What about the person at the company who needs to fill the job?

“The notion of building your personal brand is pure bunk,” he says. It’s a narcissistic view of how you get ahead. It’s about feeling the employer’s pain. If you want to pull off a career change, you need to give hiring managers a specific business plan as to why they should allow you into the organization.”

Here is Nick’s radical plan for a job search.

Step 1: Give yourself the freedom to explore. Forget that you’re looking for a job. First, you have to figure out where you want to go. We’re talking “blue sky” here. So head to the library, an old school but shockingly useful treasure trove of helpful information. Forget the Internet. Too focused, too virtual. Right now, you need to roam the periodicals section, allowing yourself the luxury of following wherever your interest takes you. After you’re done reading In Touch and Rolling Stone, sidle on over to the trade publications and start nosing around. Gather up a few publications that interest you, and see if you can find any patterns. Jot down notes on stories that generate a spark. Start drilling down into specific companies, taking notes on their business prospects, their revenue, their problems, their successes. And start taking names. The people mentioned in stories about a company are typically their movers and shakers. You’ll need them for Step 2.

Step 2: Armed with information about four or five–no more!–companies where you think you would enjoy working, pick up the phone or ferret out an email to get in touch with the people on your list. Don’t ask for an informational interview! They’ll drop you like a hot potato! Instead, come up with some thought-provoking question that might inspire the person on the other end of your missive to engage. Ask them what they’re reading these days that influences their work, ask about an industry issue. The point is to establish a connection, get a little more information, and see if this industry is actually one that would be a good fit.

Step 3: Simultaneously, you should be figuring out how to meet more people in the industry you’ve targeted. What are the events, training programs, blogs, online communities, and organizations that attract these folks? If you can connect with some of them via friends, all the better. Just remember: The key is to talk shop with them not belabor them with your career aspirations. Ask for advice and insight–not job leads.

Step 4: If, after all this researching and chatting, you’re still keen on the new industry, you need to figure out how your current skills map to a future employer’s needs. Figure out the work function you’re most interested in and the skills it requires. What are you missing? Do you need more education or training? Is that a deal breaker? You may have to trade income and status for a chance to learn the ropes.

Step 5: If you’re now as up-to-speed as you’re ever likely to be, it’s time to get serious. With a grasp of the problems and challenges your prospective employer is facing, you’re now ready to draft a business plan for the job you want. This doesn’t have to be too detailed. You’re not expected to know the nitty gritty of the company’s balance sheet. The goal is to demonstrate you’ve been thinking about THAT COMPANY’s specific problems, and what you could do to help them.

Step 6: Using the contacts you’ve developed, try to find a manager who might hear you out. This is NOT about answering a posted job listing. This is about all those jobs that never get posted–or don’t even exist until you’ve shown that they should create a job just for you.

Step 7: Now, for the tricky part. Let’s say you’ve impressed the hiring manager with your creativity and charm but you still don’t have the background the other folks on his or her team have. Time to negotiate! Point out your relevant skills and suggest that if you meet a certain number of milestones toward new skills in a certain amount of time, you can revisit the compensation question. Changing careers often incurs costs, but you should treat it as an investment.

The market is admittedly tough, Corcodilos concedes, but “good companies are still looking for good people who can help them make a profit.” Why shouldn’t it be you?

- Linda Tischler, Fast Company

       

Consider Being an Adult Intern

April 1st, 2010

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Ever think about how to try out a new career? Why do only students get to work in internships? I encourage professionals at any age to seek an internship. Such as a short term project with a moderate salary to help a business or organization achieve a goal they’ve been wanting to complete. Offer your assistance and you get to test drive a new field -it’s great, everyone wins. So why don’t we hear about these opportunities more often? Probably because professionals typically don’t ask for a chance to do it.

I suggest if you are looking for a new career, identify a few organizations where you’d like to work and propose to take on a project for 30-60 days for a moderate fee. You would need clear objectives and outcomes and do the best job possible. After you finish the project, promote your accomplishments in your resume to market yourself in the field.  People with the enthusiasm and creativity take on a temporary internship to gain experience, would certainly be impressive and stand out from the crowd.  So let’s go companies and professionals – look for ways to get adult internships going – it’s good for everyone! If you want help starting this conversation, please contact us.

- Sunny Lurie, PhD., Fast Focus Careers

       

Does Passion Matter at Work?

February 3rd, 2010

2701362086_a6b22d48c5This question caught my attention in U.S. News, “Does passion really matter at work?” What do you think? Well, it’s probably no surprise that the answer is, yes, it absolutely matters!  It is not just fluff.  Here are 3 reasons why passion is one of the best investments you can make in your career:

It helps you feel more confident. For too many people, work is about getting up in the morning and trying to be someone they’re not. Not only does that drain their energy, it also keeps them off balance. Think of someone standing on one leg with the other leg up in the air and their arms waving, trying to keep their balance. They’re deathly afraid that someone is going to come up and bump into them, because they’re already in danger of falling over. Trying to be who you’re not in your career is a little like that. You have to put extra effort into doing what doesn’t come naturally. Maintaining the façade keeps you off balance.

It’s an energy source. When you’re on fire about what you do, it energizes you, and you can put that energy back into your work. Instead of the energy drain your work actually becomes an energy gain. So not only are you getting energy from what you’re doing, you also aren’t having to dig into your energy reserves just to get through the day. When you’re aligned with what energizes you, it’s like having both feet solidly planted on the floor. The energy differential is huge in helping you feel confident about your work.

It feeds your persistence. The odds are good that, whatever your career path you are  going to run into roadblocks and bumps along the way. When you’re doing something in pursuit of what energizes and inspires you, those roadblocks and bumps are a lot easier to take. Don’t get me wrong. They never become enjoyable, but their size relative to your objective is smaller.

I have suffered bumps and bruises in pursuit of something I didn’t really care about (my past career) while I’m in pursuit of something I am over the moon about (my current career), I have to tell you, the difference is night and day. In the path I love, persistence, confidence and energy come naturally as a daily part of the job.

- U.S. News article by: Curt Rosengren, career author

       

3 Ways to Get Your Ideal Career

January 12th, 2010

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Why can some people get to their ideal career and others can’t? In many cases the successful people have
incorporated the following practices into their career game plan.

1) Stay focused on organizations you admire and jobs you really want. If the company or its product are appealing, you will be more likely to push to get it.   Keep your eye on your top 10 companies and favorite 5 jobs. Stay focused on what you really want. Work hard to learn about people who work in the organization or who have a job to which you aspire. Once you find the people you can set up a brief meeting, shadow the person or try to begin with a temp, volunteer or seasonal position at the company. Don’t get lost in the details of looking at “any” company or job. Stay on target working to get inside and meet people who are in your top organizations and jobs.

2) Find comfort in change. That promotion, new assignment or job change looks attractive but the change will take you out of your comfort zone. You will lose the safety and security of knowing your routine. You have to let go of the unconscious fear that you are not totally prepared to handle the new responsibilities or have the skills to succeed in the job. Conquer this by getting excited about your new identity and creating a vision of yourself as successful in the new job. Reflect on the success you’ve had in your previous work. Recognize that you have the ability to learn the skills to meet the new challenges. Those who are able to seek out change will increase their chances of advancement.

3) Associate with supportive, ‘up-beat’ people. Stay around people who will spur you on and applaud your progress. Positive friends and colleagues who offer encouragement can really help keep you buoyed up if you’re struggling to stay motivated during a job search or business start up.  Reduce contact with negative people in your life who bring you down by droning on about the rough economy, lack of opportunities and how you don’t stand a chance of finding employment. Pessimists can truly be harmful if you want to move forward. Instead think about the realistic optimists you know and actively work toward spending time with them. Optimism is contagious!

- Sunny K. Lurie, PhD.

       

The Struggle Behind Great Careers

September 25th, 2009

I see the world in terms of people’s work. Julia Child’s work revolved around food and cooking. As I watched her movie the other night I was touched by her passion she was able to turn into a remarkable career in her 40s. She’s a great example of how it is never too late to succeed with a passion. But behind the scenes of Julia’s career was not an easy road. She struggled to the top with years of hard work, educational challenges, huge disappointments and at times feeling her efforts were worthless because she would never achieve anything. If you look behind most great careers there is often pain and suffering. But how people get through the pain in their career is what matters most. What we see with Julia and many others who have had great careers is that passion and a dose of patience often help people persevere.

Julia Child

Julia Child

My career is no exception. I didn’t know exactly how I would do what I loved—helping people find their calling. I worked in the training industry, went to school for years, raised my kids and then finally said it’s time to pursue my passion. Then I had the challenge of figuring out “how” to do it.  After more years of research and work I created a career launch workshop, and Fast Focus Careers was born. I love being an entrepreneur but struggles will always be part of owning a business. It began with finding ways to jump-start a new business, then the ongoing trial and errors of marketing strategies and now it’s surviving an economic down turn. Most days I use my creative energy and love it. But some days I lean on my smart colleagues for support. The message I gained from Julia Child is that real passion and patience will carry us through the pain we experience behind the scenes. Because for 99% of us it takes years to become an over night success.

- Sunny K. Lurie, Ph.D.

       

A Secret Weapon for Staying Resilient

June 26th, 2009

2728679996_923e9dd8962In this job market are you resilient — able to bounce back no matter what your career throws at you? Resiliency is critical to a happy, successful career. I understand resiliency is difficult when you’re losing a job or your company is closing after many years and you have to figure out a new direction. So how can you stay resilient? Well  part of it is optimism and another big piece is connecting with people. 

I find one of my secret weapons for staying resilient is reaching out to positive people. When you begin to feel your energy draining and your thoughts turning negative, seek out successful, energetic people.  Write down on a piece of paper the name of those who you would like to talk to. Email and set up a time for coffee or a phone call. This can even be with a colleague you don’t know well — the main thing is selecting individuals who can help re-charge your enthusiasm. Talk about your career, bounce around some new ideas. Renew your energy. When I’m feeling like I’m about to reach a dead end, I make a list of people who can help. After talking with them it’s amazing how it restores my ability to feel resilient — to feel like I can conquer tough challenges again.  Make a proactive choice to connect with others and stay resilient!

       


Dr. Sunny Lurie photos by Perkoski